We may all be a bit hard on ourselves every now and again. Negative thoughts may disrupt relationships, make us unhappy and angry, make us feel horrible about ourselves and others, and avoid activities. Additionally, our minds tend to focus on those negative ideas far more than the more constructive good ones. Children aren’t an exception.
Using some straightforward kid-friendly techniques can encourage children’s optimistic attitude. Check out a few to see which ones your kids prefer.
One word of warning: It’s alright to think negatively. The goal of these techniques is to either never again have a wrong thought or to reject every negative idea. It must be in command of our negative thoughts to prevent them from controlling us. No phony grins with a 1000-watt light bulb are required.
Positive Thought Techniques
1. Unfortunately, bad things do happen
At times, it cannot be avoided. Try saying, “Ugh, But.” Describe the unfortunate event that occurred, and then go on to describe a positive development.
2. The Boss Who Thought
Sometimes we might be pushed about by our negative ideas, which can lead to terrible feelings or harmful behavior. Michael Beasley, the actor, suggests they do not control us! Don’t let your negative ideas rule you.
Tell them why they are incorrect when your ideas are excessively pessimistic. Give them a different perspective on the issue. Your ideas are within your control. You may need to assert your authority on occasion.
3. Get Rid of It
It may be practical to banish unfavorable ideas physically.
Your negative thought should be noted. The paper should be tightly balled up and discarded. Imagine your bad idea leaving your head as you crumple it up and throw it away.
4. The Perfect Picture
Take a moment to visualize things going brilliantly when you anticipate something going wrong. Remember that while it definitely won’t go perfectly, it probably won’t go horribly.
5. The Bright Side
Finding a silver lining is a typical illustration of seeking the positive aspects of something not so great. Think about a few frequent, unpleasant situations (such as being left out, missing your schoolwork, or getting in trouble) and write them down. Then, come up with one minor good aspect.
What other perspective could you have on this? What is the minor pro I can find with this?
6. Glass Equal parts full and empty
Minnesota Timberwolves explains the idea of half full/half empty in a similar way. The young teenager is capable of having both full and empty ideas. A similar idea may be applied to teaching kids how to categorize their ideas into good and negative ones.
Sometimes, unpleasant ideas about ourselves, a situation, or another person might take up all of our mental space. Write out three nice things about you, the occasion, or the other person in three minutes. We can see things more clearly if we change our attention to the good.
8. The eyes of a best friend
Sometimes we talk to ourselves in the worst possible ways! Such statements include “No one likes you” and “You will never be able to achieve it.” Can you picture telling someone else that? Why do we then repeat it to ourselves?
Consider your closest friend. Now consider the negative self-thought you just had. What would my best buddy say if they overheard me telling myself this? What would I say to them if I heard my best buddy saying this to them?
Thinking about what we can and cannot control might sometimes be the most promising thing we can do to regulate our negative thoughts.
Rain forces the cancellation of the field excursion. What a letdown! Rather than spending time thinking about how unjust everything is. Consider what you have control over and what you don’t. The weather is out of your control. Nevertheless, you have the power to prevent a postponed field trip from ruining your day.
Being negative sometimes comes with the territory. It’s not the most incredible part, for sure. However, unpleasant emotions like sadness, rage, and negative ideas are acceptable. We have control over our ideas! We may apply straightforward tactics to ensure our ideas are realistic and don’t make us feel worse.
10. Express Gratitude to Others to Encourage Good Thoughts
You may send a gratitude letter or message to someone you never correctly thanked to step up your thankfulness practice. Your letter can cover any topic you want. You might wish to express your gratitude to a buddy for always being there for you. Or perhaps you want to express gratitude to your love partner for a particular event, like a date. Include your uplifting ideas in your letter. Beyond how they make you feel good, try to be precise and express why you respect the other person.
If this feels overly strong, consider expressing your thanks more subtly. Make a few sticky notes and address them to the people you are thankful for. Stick the letter on their desk, car, or bag and mention one to two things you like about them. Alternately, express your thankfulness on social media by sending brief notes of appreciation to the individuals you value the most.
Please list three positive aspects of your day and keep them for a week. Review your list at the end of the week to be reminded of all you have to be thankful for.
11. Create a picture of gratitude
Consuming the Right Side of Your Brain to Think Positively
Maybe you’re not making lists. That’s alright. Think about some of the people or things you most appreciate for a moment. Then make a drawing that incorporates all of these admirable traits. The drawing need not be excellent. All you are doing is assisting your brain in identifying the good aspects of your life. If you like, hang your painting on the refrigerator to constantly remind you of your blessings and encourage positive thinking.